Facts > Feelings I

Sometimes, I scroll through my timeline and wonder if a lot of people have any original thoughts of their own. The NPC meme sums them up in a tragicallty comical way. They have preset phrases they use to engage most issues and do not respond – AT ALL – to new information. The absolute WORST […]

The Table – What is Fellowship?

It was announced back at the end of October that the church I had been serving on staff at would close it’s doors on December 30, 2018. And so it did. This, of course, left my family wondering what we were going to do in this next season of life. Would we find another church? […]

Happy Fathers Day to the Adulterous Fathers – We Still Love You

I admit, it’s a weird and unsettling title for an article. But I cannot sugar coat the meat of the message. So why sugar coat the title as well? I say happy Father’s Day to you fathers who have and who are adulterous, not for what you have done or are doing, but because of […]

Cats in the Cradle: A Cautionary Tale

There’s an old Harry Chapin song called “Cats in the Cradle” that I recall my father saying frequently when I was a kid was one of his favorite songs. When he was a pastor, I even recall him using the lyrics of the song as an illustration a time or two. If you’re not familiar […]

When They Say Goodbye: Coming to Terms With Those Who Have Walked Away

It is never easy to say goodbye to people that you have lived life with for so long. It’s easy to say goodbye to people you’ve never poured your life into, but it is NEVER easy to say goodbye to people who have shared intimate moments in your life with you. It was not easy […]

Marriage & Divorce: It’s Not Only About You.

The biggest lie about marriage and divorce? “It’s just about me and my spouse. No one else.” Sadly, many have bought this lie hook, line, and sinker and have left a huge massive pile of victims in the wake of their divorce. The reality is, your marriage is not only about you and your spouse. […]

Fathers Day for the Fatherless

I never suspected that when my parents divorced last year (with me at the age of 34) under less than honorable circumstances, that Fathers Day would become one of those holidays that just wouldn’t quite be the same. I’m hoping this isn’t a life long trend. But I know that this year things aren’t going […]

Exiled…

We live in the midst of a Christian cultural environment that has somehow bought the lie that we should disconnect ourselves from this world, that faith doesn’t mix with politics, and that Christians should just focus on religious stuff within the confines of the walls of our churches and homes, and ultimately leave the world […]

Stopping the impending social and political train wreck.

I have recently been asked how do we stop the political train wreck today as we look forward with a long-term strategy past this current election. And here are my thoughts. As for today, we must make the conscious decision to stop playing by their rules and to stop getting caught up in the lesser […]

Divorce: The Death of a Marriage

There is no feeling quite like getting the call that a loved one has died. It’s surreal. It’s heart breaking. It’s EXTREMELY difficult to describe unless you’ve experienced it yourself. Interestingly, divorce has a similar impact. And it doesn’t matter how old you are….when you get the news that your parents are either getting divorced […]