We have failed at showing you kindness and compassion even if we disagree with you about sexuality.
Testimony time! (NOTE: Car pictures is NOT my car) So, I have the day off. I was getting in my car to go visit my wife at work and get a coffee, when my car got stuck in the mud of our driveway. As… Continue Reading “Sowing Seeds of Kindness”
COVID has been a pain in our butts for the vast majority of 2020…this much is true. People have died (over 200k in the US). This is no small thing. However, perhaps one of the worst outcomes of the entire thing is how we have come to treat one another…our friends, family, and neighbors.
Imagine with me, for a moment, a Church where… there is no paid staff, and the pastor and other staff do not rely on the local church to provide for their families. there is a pastor, and other leaders are organically raised up from… Continue Reading “All Has Been Stripped Away, But Will We Simply Come?”
Most churches are still putting a great deal of effort into making the 1 hour Sunday gathering viable over the internet for most of their church body. Some are making efforts to find discipleship opportunities outside of Sunday morning. And unfortunately, a great deal of people are still screaming that they want things to go back to the way they were.
Seeing all of these reactions, I can’t help but ask, should we go back?
I’ve started noticing a trend with some (not all or even most) Christians, especially male Christians, and even more specifically male Christians who would consider themselves “culturally engaged” or taking on cultural ideologies that conflict with Biblical principles and moral standards found in the Bible.
That trend is this…any time someone (like myself) mentions that we as believers need to love others better (not just those within the church, but also those outside of the church) and be kinder, more patient, and more gentle with people…there seems to rise up from the ranks of the individuals I mentioned above an immediate defensive posture, and their responses come across as almost a disdain for what is being said.
After watching the western church response to John MacArthur/Beth Moore, Kanye, then Kanye/Joel Osteen, and now Chick-fil-A I can confidently say that the reality is these folks get triggered just as easily as their liberal and millennial counterparts…they just get triggered over different things.
We are a little over a week away from Thanksgiving…one of my all-time favorite holidays…because let’s face it…I LOVE FOOD!
But, over the years I’ve observed interactions between families–not just my own – I love my family!…but also from other families–and it is interesting to see how holidays, such as Thanksgiving, that should be bringing people together and filling homes and hearts with joy and fellowship…can be one of the biggest stresses on relationships in the existence of the world.
On one side you have the pastors and church leaders (the shepherds), and on the other you have the church body (the sheep). For decades (if not centuries) there has always been a tension between these 2 sides of the coin, which results in church splits, hurt relationships, broken testimonies, people being turned away from and turned off of the church, and a whole lot more. Each side of the coin seems to think they ARE the coin not realizing that they are but one side of the same coin….that there is another side.
Recently, I started a podcast with several friends called The Angry Christian Podcast, which explores the topic of anger as it relates to being a Christian. We talk through various topics and questions and scriptures trying to explore and understand better the concept of… Continue Reading “Is Being Angry a Sin?”
We have all been there before. Someone (or perhaps even it is us) is trying to communicate something very important but the delivery of the message is conducted in such a way that it immediately causes the hearer to throw up walls, tune them out, or flat out reject the message. It doesn’t matter if what is being communicated is true, important, or eternally impacting…the delivery is simply abysmal and causing more harm than it is helping.
Discovering The Enneagram Recently, I’ve been doing a book study with a number of close friends of mine (and even some new friends I never knew I had!). The study is through the book titled, The Road Back to You by Ian Cron and… Continue Reading “Angry Christian: A Destructive Journey Toward a Growing Compassion (Introduction)”
There once was a man who was in the market for a car that was really good on gas mileage, was cheap, and was small (he worked in a downtown area where parking was minimal). This man found a 2002 Mini Cooper with 56,000… Continue Reading “The Parable of the 2002 Mini Cooper: A Lesson On Getting Help”
Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God. James 1:19-20 ESV For a very long time…too long really, I’ve gotten this scripture… Continue Reading “Be Quick to Speak and Slow to Listen…No…Wait!”
I used to be pretty critical about those who didn’t “go to church”. Clearly, they lacked something I didn’t because they didn’t want to be AT church. Clearly they weren’t as committed to God and the Church as I was…I who was on staff… Continue Reading “Don’t Just Judge, Judge Rightly: An Inconvenient Truth”
If you peruse this blog site for any amount of time, you will probably find a number of articles pertaining to the subject of moving on. And that’s probably because, personally, I have had a lot of stuff over the course of my life… Continue Reading “Getting Uncomfortable In Our Misery: The Art of Moving On”
Sometimes I have to process things really slowly, especially when those things involve people I was close to. For instance, I have been working through processing a couple of events that took place in the last couple of months that seemed rather unnecessary and… Continue Reading “The 3 R’s of Moving On”
Being called a Spiritual Son or hearing someone call themselves my Spiritual Father (or mother) was something I wasn’t used to growing up in the Southern Baptist Church. Which is odd, because there is certainly this type of relationship displayed throughout the Bible.
THE MOVEMENT Around 1997, a man by the name of Jay Shafer began a now growing and increasingly popular movement known as The Tiny House Movement. The purpose or vision of most who are moving toward the Tiny House movement is really quite simple:… Continue Reading “The Tiny House Movement: A Big Lesson for the American Church”
It was announced back at the end of October that the church I had been serving on staff at would close it’s doors on December 30, 2018. And so it did. This, of course, left my family wondering what we were going to do… Continue Reading “The Table – What is Fellowship?”
There seems to be this…I don’t know…unwritten rule in the Church that any sign of unhappiness suddenly means that you either lack faith or even trust in God, OR you are somehow ungrateful for the lot God has given you at the moment. And many times, this… Continue Reading “To the People Who Mean Well In Your Season of Pain”
There’s an old Harry Chapin song called “Cats in the Cradle” that I recall my father saying frequently when I was a kid was one of his favorite songs. When he was a pastor, I even recall him using the lyrics of the song… Continue Reading “Cats in the Cradle: A Cautionary Tale”
Victors take responsibility for their mistakes. Victims blame others for their mistakes. Victors receive correction as a teaching moment. Victims take correction as a personal attack. Victors let go of offenses. Victims horde their offenses and take on others offenses as well. Victors refuse… Continue Reading “Victor OR Victim: Which One Are You?”
Around the start of August a man went out on his porch to survey his property and assess the work that needed to be done that day. The summer had been a wet and hot one so several weeks had passed between the times… Continue Reading “Wasps in a Bush: A Modern Day Parable”
People are going to hurt you. It hurts, even more, when the hurt comes from those who you love the most. It is, unfortunately, the nature of a humanity that is deeply depraved and fallen, to hurt one another, to eat the wounded, to… Continue Reading “How to Respond When it Seems the One Who Hurt You is Succeeding In Life”
It is never easy to say goodbye to people that you have lived life with for so long. It’s easy to say goodbye to people you’ve never poured your life into, but it is NEVER easy to say goodbye to people who have shared… Continue Reading “When They Say Goodbye: Coming to Terms With Those Who Have Walked Away”
Growing up, I’ll admit, I was a disrespectful punk who cared very little about the feelings, concerns, or responsibilities of the average parent of any girl I dated at the time. My biggest concern? That I get what I felt I was entitled to…time… Continue Reading “What I Would Tell My 15-Year-Old Stupid Self About Dating”
“Those punk kids will never understand what it’s like to have responsibility. When I was their age I already had a full-time job.” “Those old people are such tightwads. I’m glad our generation is a lot more generous.” “Look at those parents, their kids… Continue Reading “World War Infinity: The Generational Wars”
In 2 Kings chapter 7 we see an interesting story where the people of Israel are under siege by the Syrian army. Because of this siege the people of Israel were starving to death. They were helpless, hungry, and desperate. In fact, in chapter 6,… Continue Reading “How Shall We Die?”
Have you ever been so afraid that you were blind to what was really happening around you? I know I’ve experienced this. Especially when the pressures of life began to have a profound effect on more than just myself, but also my family, or… Continue Reading “When Fear Blinds You to Reality”
This election season, unlike any other I’ve witnessed in my very short 16-year voting history, has been one of the most stressful and disheartening elections I have personally been through. We are still a good 2 weeks out from election day, but let’s not… Continue Reading “Minds Are Made Up. So where do we go from here?”
Proverbs 4:23 Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life. So, today I ended up coming home from work a little early to tackle our yard situation. The front yard needed to be cut…but it has only been… Continue Reading “Neglecting the Back Yard: Lessons Learned from Lawn Care.”