Thoughts on Church Hurt

I cannot hold others accountable for the wounds they did not inflict on me.

The Parable of the 2002 Mini Cooper: A Lesson On Getting Help

There once was a man who was in the market for a car that was really good on gas mileage, was cheap, and was small (he worked in a downtown area where parking was minimal). This man found a 2002 Mini Cooper with 56,000 miles on it for a darn good price. He took it […]

The 3 R’s of Moving On

Sometimes I have to process things really slowly, especially when those things involve people I was close to. For instance, I have been working through processing a couple of events that took place in the last couple of months that seemed rather unnecessary and petty, but came from the least likely sources. RECENT EVENTS For […]

Victor OR Victim: Which One Are You?

Victors take responsibility for their mistakes. Victims blame others for their mistakes. Victors receive correction as a teaching moment. Victims take correction as a personal attack. Victors let go of offenses. Victims horde their offenses and take on others offenses as well. Victors refuse to be defined by their failures. Victims refuse to see anything […]

When Correction Becomes a Memorial

We’ve all been there…someone in authority over us comes to us and lets us know that they need to talk to us privately. Then, we get to the closed door room and we are confronted with something we may have said or done that is needing to be corrected. I know I’ve been there COUNTLESS times […]

When Poison Poisons the Poisoned

Offenses will come. It’s not a matter of “if”, but a matter of “when”. And how we respond to our offenses will ultimately determine how or if we are able to move on from the offense and will also determine how much damage is caused in the process. The unfortunate fact is this: when one […]